Bible Study Tip #2 and a FREE Bible Study

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Note from Kat: This post is written by monthly contributor Katie Orr.

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Last month I introduced a new series of Bible study tips for the overwhelmed, tired, and really busy. This month I have another tip to share and a tool for you to put it into practice!

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A free (yes FREE!) 4-week Bible study.

I’ve put together a free 4-week Bible study just for you. This is designed for the really busy and overwhelmed who long to be in the Bible but just don’t seem to be able to make it work. I’ve been there, and know that sometimes you just need a bit of guidance and lots of grace.

This Bible study includes 3 days of work for each week which can be done in 5-10 minutes a day, with an option for additional days if you find you have more time.

Free Bible Study for the Overwhelmed

This study will be available here at Inspired to Action for a limited time as a free download. So, be sure to download your copy today! I’ve also made it available on Kindle for 99 cents. (Affiliate link)

The Abundant Living Bible study is still available for FREE for subscribers on my personal blog.

Bible Study Tip #2: Ask Good Questions

Really good Bible study comes down to asking good questions about the text. In this Abundant Living study I’ll introduce a way to study the Bible while reading with different “glasses” on, which is simply reading the verses with only one topic in mind. I have found there are three very important “glasses” to use, with which we can view the different layers in the Bible.

  • Truths
  • Promises
  • Commands

You can take a verse, passage, or even a book of the Bible and study it by using these glasses and we’ll put this method into practice this month through the Abundant Living Bible study.

Are you in an overwhelmed place? Does finding 5 minutes three times this week sound doable? Just click here to download the free Bible study and let me know in the comments that you are in. I hope you love it!

Miss tip #1 in this series? Catch it here.

About Katie 

Women's Bible StudyGrace-clinger. Truth-speaker.

Learn more about Katie on her website

An easy way to find time to study the Bible.

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ITA Katie Orr

In so many ways, motherhood was rude awakening for me. I’m eight years into it now and just starting to feel like I am coming up for air.

One of the biggest adjustments to motherhood was learning how to find time and energy to be in the Bible. I wanted it. I needed it. Yet — with every intention of opening my Bible that day — I often just didn’t get to it.

Maybe you’re in this same place? Overwhelmed, tired, and a bit dazed by the busyness of all motherhood entails. If you are, know that you are certainly not alone and you don’t have to be stuck here. Over the next few months, we’ll be walking through some practical ways to find time to study the Bible and what to do once you do have it open.

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Are you ready? I’m so excited!

Bible Study Tip #1: Find a Trigger.

I first figured out the fruitfulness of this while in college. Though I had more time that I knew what to do with, I struggled with finding time to study my Bible. Each day looked so different and getting to 8AM Chemistry class was a strain, so early morning quiet times were definitely out of the question!

But there was something I did every day: I studied. Whether for anatomy or history, you would find me in the library working on whatever work needed to be done. Sometimes it was after lunch and sometimes late at night, but I studied just about every day. So I decided to make that my trigger. Once I got to the library, I pulled out my Bible first. Sometimes I studied for only 5 minutes, but I found those moments in God’s Word were incredibly fruitful.

I’ve been able to carry this concept into my ever-changing motherhood days. Some seasons it was over the breakfast table while my little one(s) ate. Other times it was during naptime, or during a break at work.

Finding a trigger is an incredibly simple and easy way to incorporate time with God into your day. Here are a few possibilities:

  • Study as soon as you get home from dropping the kids off at school.
  • Show up to work a few minutes early and read for 5 minutes.
  • At the kitchen table right after you put your toddler in the highchair to eat breakfast. (You may need to turn that little guy away so he can’t see mama … out of sight out of mind!)
  • Take the first or last 5 minutes of your lunch break to read God’s Word.

Your Assignment for Today:

Look at the activities that you do every day a find one thing you can attach with your time with God then share it with us in the comments.

Have you tried something like this before? Are you desperate to get any sort of Bible reading into your day? Where are some potential triggers in your day?

About Katie 

HelloMornings Director

Grace-clinger. Truth-speaker. Pastor’s wife. Mommy of three. Auburn fan. Loves to equip others to walk with the Lord for a lifetime.

Learn more about Katie on her website Follow her on Twitter.

13 Awesome Resources to Teach Children About God

By | General, How to Share the Gospel with Your Kids | 19 Comments

Note from Kat: I’ve been quite busy this summer getting my new blog, up and running. I’ve also been working on a little project that is going to be crazy helpful for you, especially once the school year rolls around. I hope to share the details with you all in the next couple weeks.

Today’s post is from my friend Katie Orr. She’s sharing some amazing resources. Enjoy!

I hope you’ve enjoyed our How to Share the Gospel with Your Kids series. It means the world to me to know that some of you feel better equipped to talk with your kids about Jesus and about their need for a savior!

In case you missed it, this is where we’ve been:

  1. We talked about how NOT to share the gospel with your kids.
  2. We took a look at Deuteronomy 6:4-9 and gleaned 3 ways we can daily point our children to Jesus.
  3. Lastly, we looked at the WHAT to talk about when sharing about God with our kids. The nitty – gritty of what to focus on, using four basic Biblical truths.

Today I want to leave you will some tangible resources to keep learning and pointing your kiddos to Jesus. (affiliate links present)

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Resources I’ve already mentioned:

  • The Jesus Storybook Bible Hands-down, my favorite children’s storybook Bible. I LOVE how every story points back to God’s rescue plan! This is suited for children who can sit and listen for 15 minutes. (In other words, not the best choice for a 2 year old boy!)
  • The New Bible in Pictures for Little Eyes The perfect read-aloud for toddlers (including that squirmy 2-year-old!) or a good option for early readers to read on their own. Short stories with great engaging questions.
  • Family-Time Bible in Pictures Great for family devotions. Love that the stories point back to God, not just good behavior.
  • Give Them Grace A good foundation for Christian parenting, and how to point your kids to Jesus instead of behavior modification.
  • Seeds Family Worship A great way to start the habit of Scripture memory with your kids! They have many of their songs available to listen to for free on their site. There are also YouTube videos they’ve made.

Other books and resources on our shelf:

DVD’s we love:

  • Theo I received a free copy of a Theo videos last year at Allume. I’ve since purchased the rest of the available videos, because the kids love watching them and my husband and I love what they teach. Each video is centered around important theological truths necessary to understand the Gospel.
  • What’s in the Bible These are all fun and entertaining videos, and go through the Bible from Genesis on. There are LOADS of free resources on their website, including coloring sheets, family worship ideas, and video clips of the DVDs. There is one video I highly recommend all to watch. It is an incredibly powerful visual for the wrath-absorbing death Jesus died for us. I’ve embedded it here for you to watch. Grab a tissue. (This video is 11 minutes long. If you only have a few minutes, fast-forward to 6:45 and watch from there.)

Email readers, click here if you can’t see the video.

Online Gospel Resources:

  • FREE Parenting Resources From interviews with Pastor John, to free ebooks, and LOADS of sermons to listen to, this is an incredible resource. Bookmark this and come back to it often!
  • Especially great for those of us with little ones. Amanda is truly gifted in creating fun and meaningful crafts and activities which teach Biblical truths.

What tools do you use to point your kids to Jesus? Have any of you started having more meaningful conversations with your kids as a result of this series? Let us know in the comments!

About Katie 

HelloMornings Director

Grace-clinger. Truth-speaker. Pastor’s wife. Mommy of three. Auburn fan. Loves to equip others to walk with the Lord for a lifetime.

Learn more about Katie on her website Follow her on Twitter.

What to Talk about When Sharing the Gospel with Your Kids

By | General, How to Share the Gospel with Your Kids | 15 Comments

Katie Orr

Sharing the Gospel with our children is more of a journey than anything else. It’s not a one-time conversation, or an event we can plan or send them to. It is about pointing them to Jesus again and again and allowing the Holy Spirit to do the work in their hearts that only He can.

But you may find yourself wondering exactly WHAT to share with your children.

There is a natural progression of understanding the Gospel, which we can lead our kids through. I see each of these truths as conversations to have over and over again with my kids until they are crystal-clear. Here are four basic components of the Gospel:

  • God loves you.
  • You have a sin problem.
  • God provided a solution to your problem.
  • You must have faith in Christ.


God Loves You

Sharing the Gospel with our kids must start here: they are known and deeply loved by a great, glorious, and personal God. They are hand-formed by God for a purpose (Ephesians 2:10), He has called them by name (Isaiah 43) and they are of great worth to Him (Luke 12:6-7). Let’s make it our aim to give our kids a picture of a loving, personal God.

You Have a Sin Problem

We are all sinners and are all therefore separated from God. (Romans 3:23; 6:23) Even the “smallest” of sins is a great offense to God. God is a righteous judge who cannot be in the presence of sin and cannot let sin go unpunished.

I know that this is not the most popular or easy thing to talk about, but it is an absolute must. If our kids cannot see their deep, dark sin nature they will never see their deep, desperate need for Jesus! 

Jesus is the Only Solution

This is usually where we mess up when it comes to sharing the Gospel. In the midst of training our kids, we must be sure we are not communicating that good works = right standing with God, as it most certainly does not.

The ONLY answer to our sin problem is Jesus. (John 14:6) All our best efforts are futile, and we must be diligent to be sure our children get this.

Our sin problem was fixed by Jesus’ life, death, and resurrection. He lived the perfect life because we never could. He died on the cross to pay the penalty of our sin. And He defeated the power of death through His resurrection so that we could spend eternity in relationship with God. (1 Corinthians 15:3-6)

Christ alone can save us from our sins.

We Must Choose to Believe

This is our only part in the Gospel. Faith in what Christ has done on our behalf (Ephesians 2:8-9). This is not solely a faith in God. Many people grow up believing in God but never enter into the Christian faith. Faith that saves comes from a desperate heart. A heart which longs for Jesus — the only solution for their sin problem — to be first and foremost in their life.


As you talk with your children about these truths, they should eventually be able to articulate the basics of the Gospel back to you before they are ready to respond in faith. As exciting as it is to get to the point of decision with our kids, we need to take it very slowly, and ask loads of clarifying questions.

When they are ready to make this decision, you will not be able to talk them out of it if you wanted to! I’m praying for each of us, as we attempt lead our children to Jesus.

Have you begun any of these conversations with your kids? What does it look like to for you and your family? Click here to let us know in the comments.

Read the rest of How to Share the Gospel with your Kids posts.

About Katie 

HelloMornings Director

Grace-clinger. Truth-speaker. Pastor’s wife. Mommy of three. Auburn fan. Loves to equip others to walk with the Lord for a lifetime.

Learn more about Katie on her website Follow her on Twitter.

3 Ways to Point Your Kids to Jesus

By | General, How to Share the Gospel with Your Kids | 14 Comments

Katie Orr

Oh say can you see…

Are you singing it yet? You’ll have the Star Spangled Banner in your head all day now.

You’re welcome.

There is incredible power in the repetition of words. It is why we will never forget the Pledge of Allegiance or the words to Ice Ice Baby. (Or maybe that’s just me…)

There are words contained in Deuteronomy 6:4-9, known as the Shemah, that were of great importance to the ancient Hebrews. It was their core prayer, a statement of identity, and one of the first sections of the Bible that jewish children learned. So, when a Hebrew heard “Hear O Isreal…” they would immediately recall the truths about God that had been ingrained in their memory from childhood.


4 Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. 5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. 6 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. 8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. 9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates. Deuteronomy 6:4-9

This Shemah has much to teach us today. It points to how we may also never forget what is most important, and what we are to teach to our own children.

1. Love God and Love His Word (vv. 5-6)

I cannot impart something I don’t possess. If I want my kids to have an intimate, thriving relationship with God, I must make it a priority in my own life. God must be the center of my life. Not my career. Not my dress size. Not even my children.

My heart, soul, and might must be God-centric and when they are not (because my heart so easily wanders) I must stir up my affections for Jesus. Spend time in the Bible. Stay connected to a local church. Worship God with my lifestyle. And let my kids see me at it.

Do one thing to do today to help you towards intimacy with God. Here are a few suggestions:

  • Start a Bible reading plan.
  • Get back into a local church.
  • Grab a journal and write out a prayer to God.

2. Talk about God with Your Children (v. 7)

There is a popular quote out there by St. Francis of Assisi: “Preach the gospel at all times; use words when necessary.” While I understand the heart behind his thinking, too many Christians today stand behind quotes like this and believe that others will come to faith in God solely by observing the lives of those who follow Him.

I disagree.

Sharing the Gospel with my kids cannot be haphazard. They will not learn about Jesus by osmosis. I must be specific and steadfast. Just like the text itself tells us, I must talk about Jesus when I sit in my house. I must point out the hand of God as we walk on our way. I am to give them Jesus at bedtime and Jesus at breakfast.

The command here in Scripture is to give every opportunity we can to tell our kids about Jesus. Here are a few ideas to try this week:

  • On the way home from church, ask your kids what they learned while they were there.
  • Share something with your kids about what you’ve learned through the Bible recently.
  • Point out something beautiful in nature and mention how glad you are God gives us such gifts.

3. Create Reminders and Rhythms (vv. 8-9)

Life is busy. Distractions abound. And it is all-too-easy to forget about the spiritual health of my children. Having a time and a place to intentionally build into the spiritual health of my children makes for natural, easy ways to share about God.

Mealtimes are often a great time to talk about God and learn His Word with my kids. We’ve memorized verses together, just by reviewing it over the breakfast table several days a week.

Our driving time in the car is one of my favorite ways to remind us of God’s Word. Seeds Family Worship, and the audio version of The Jesus Storybook Bible are some of our favorites. (affiliate links present)

Pick one thing to implement this week:

  • If you don’t already, pray together before each meal.
  • Look for a “time and a place” in the rhythm of your day — breakfast, bedtime, after school — where you can begin to engage in God’s Word together with your kids.
  • Post Scripture up around the house as a reminder of God’s love for us.

Leave a comment and share with us one thing you will implement this week.

In the next post of this How to Share the Gospel series, we’ll look at the nitty-gritty of WHAT to communicate to your children when sharing the Gospel with them.

About Katie 

HelloMornings Director

Grace-clinger. Truth-speaker. Pastor’s wife. Mommy of three. Auburn fan. Loves to equip others to walk with the Lord for a lifetime.

Learn more about Katie on her website Follow her on Twitter.

The HelloMornings Summer Session is HERE!

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(Note from Kat: Today’s post is from HelloMornings Director, Katie Orr.)

Registration for the summer session of HelloMornings is underway!

Summer Challenge Details

  • A 13-week challenge to maximize your mornings, via online accountability groups.
  • Starts May 6th and runs through August 2nd.
  • Registration is open until Friday, May 3th.
  • Perfection is not a requirement. Just a desire to meet with God in the morning and a commitment to checking in with your group.
  • There is also a free Bible study for all HelloMornings participants, Meet Jesus, a walk through the book of John.

There are Facebook and Twitter accountability groups available for you to choose from. Registration ends this Friday, and groups are filling up fast. Just head on over to the registration site to find a group that fits your needs.

Have you taken on the HelloMornings challenge before? Are you interested? Scared of it? (tee-hee) What does your time with God usually look like in the summer?

Let us know in the comments!

About Katie 
HelloMornings Director

Grace-clinger. Truth-speaker. Pastor’s wife. Mommy of three. Auburn fan. Loves to equip others to walk with the Lord for a lifetime.

Learn more about Katie on her website Follow her on Twitter.

How NOT to Share the Gospel with Your Kids

By | General, How to Share the Gospel with Your Kids | 22 Comments

You would think that sharing the Gospel — the good news of Jesus — would be an easy, natural thing to do with our kids. But let’s face it, it can be a difficult task.

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Though there are many methods out there to point our kids to Jesus, there are quite a few misconceptions about what sharing the Gospel with our kids might look like.

What sharing the gospel is not.

Leading our kids to Jesus is not solely sending them to church. While I do hope you are each going to a church that teaches about Jesus, the act of sending them to church is not sharing the Gospel with your children, it is only passing off the responsibility to someone else. The church’s job is to come along side of the family, to encourage and enhance what they are doing in the home.

Bringing them to faith in Christ is not simply leading them in a prayer. Our kids want to please us, so desperately. If we talk about becoming a Christian enough, most children will ultimately come out and say that they want to be one. I’ve witnessed many parents put a ton of stock in the fact that they prayed with their child once, but this is the only “evidence” they have of their salvation.

Sharing the Gospel with our kids is not a one-time deal. It is an on-going conversation toward entering an on-going relationship with Jesus. Even after a child “prays the prayer” we should continue to talk with them about the good news of all that Jesus has done for us. One of the worst things we can do as parents is to give our children a false sense of security when it comes to their salvation. If they think the end goal is to pray a prayer, walk an aisle, or get dunked in the baptismal … well, frankly, we are setting them up for failure.

So, how do I share Jesus with my kids?

I spent over a decade of my life in ministry with Cru, in which I had hundreds of opportunities to communicate the good news of Jesus. The following comes from the basic outline I used in ministry, anf to this day is the structure I go to when sharing my faith with others (including my kids!)

1. God loves you and created you to know Him personally.

2. Man is sinful and therefore separated from God.

3. Jesus Christ is the only way to God.

4. We must each individually receive Jesus as Savior and Lord.

Over the next several months we’ll be taking a deeper look at each of these points and how to effectively and clearly communicate these truths to your children. I hope you’ll join me for the ride!


In the meantime …

Here are a few of my all-time favorite children’s Bibles. A great start to sharing the good news of Jesus with your kids!

  • The Jesus Storybook Bible.  “Every story whispers his name” is the tagline for this book and it couldn’t be a more appropriate description. I love this story Bible, as do my kids. This is most appropriate for children old enough to sit and listen to a 10-minute story. We also have the audio version and use it often.
  • The New Bible in Pictures for Little Eyes. This is the perfect read-aloud for toddlers. The stories are super-short (like 1 minute short!) with great, descriptive pictures, and a Gospel-centered theme. Each story ends with a few engaging questions and a short prayer. This is also a good option for early readers to read on their own.
  • Family-Time Bible in Pictures. Written by the same author as the former Bible, these stories are a bit longer. The pictures are just as great and descriptive, and has engaging questions as well.

What is the biggest challenge you face in sharing the Gospel with your children? What questions do you have? Have you begun any Gospel-centered conversations with your kids? How did they go? Share them with us in the comments.


About Katie 
HelloMornings Director

Grace-clinger. Truth-speaker. Pastor’s wife. Mommy of three. Auburn fan. Loves to equip others to walk with the Lord for a lifetime.

Learn more about Katie on her website Follow her on Twitter.

How To Be a Victorious Mom

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Katie Orr

I’ve been feeling quite a bit like a defeated mother lately.

Failure is my reality. Discouragement lingers. Condemnation hangs.

Truth is the only thing that can pull me out of the pit. Truth is what takes me from a defeated mom to a victorious mom.

The truth is, though I stumble, God is pleased with me.

There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For the law of the Spirit of life has set you free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death. (Romans 8:1-2 ESV)

I can’t get enough of Romans 8. I am not condemned. I am set free. The Spirit of God dwells in me.

And there is so much more.

Today, I choose to cling to the truth that I am not condemned. The chains of my sin are gone. Though I still trip over them, no more are they attached to my wrists. I have a choice to live in freedom.

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So I choose today to live as a victorious mom. Not a guilty mom. Not a burdened mom. A mom who is free to love, care for, and enjoy her precious children.

We are more than conquerors
through him who loved us so.
The Christ who dwells within us
is the greatest power we know.

He will fight beside us
tho’ the enemy is great.
Who can stand against us?
He’s the captain of our fate.

Then we will conquer never fear
so let the battle rage.
He has promised to be near
until the end of the age.


We are more than conquerors
through him who loved us so.
The Christ who dwells within us
is the greatest power we know.

-Unknown hymn I grew up singing.

Let’s be victorious moms today. Lord, enable us today to walk in the freedom you have provided for us!

Are you feeling condemned today? What truths do you cling to when you are tempted to live as a defeated mom? I hope you’ll share with me. I could use some encouragement today.


About Katie 
HelloMornings Director

Grace-clinger. Truth-speaker.Pastor’s wife. Mommy of three. Auburn fan. Loves to equip others to walk with the Lord for a lifetime.

Learn more about Katie on her website Follow her on Twitter.

If you still need a reason to jump into the early-morning craziness…

By | Be Productive, Create A Morning Routine, General, Get Inspired, HelloMornings Challenge | 12 Comments

Katie Orr

If you’ve been around Inspired to Action for any length of time, you’ve heard about HelloMornings and the benefits of the early-morning habit. You’ve read of the challenge to wake up for your kids, instead of to your kids. And you’ve listened to the calls to start the day putting first things first, through spending time with Jesus.

You may find yourself on the sidelines — still not convinced that an earlier morning is for you. If you have any inkling of “jumping into the game” will you take a moment to read through the comments of yesterday’s post over at the HelloMornings blog? We’ve been celebrating our 8th HelloMornings challenge, by declaring what the Lord has done in our lives through the HelloMornings challenge.

The comments are just breathtaking.

I discovered a need and a solution I had never considered…

…I would have wasted these opportunities sleeping.

…I give Him the firstfruits of my day and I am a much happier Mama…

God is doing a great work in the lives of these mamas. He is transforming their souls, their families, and even some physiques. These women are not more discipled, more athletic, or more spiritual than you and I. They are simply women who have taken Him at His Word — that He has come that we might have life, and that we would have it abundantly!

He bestows abundant blessings when we choose to follow Him in obedience.

So, friend, if you think He might just be whispering your name—calling you up to sit at His feet and listen to Him in the early morning hours—will you listen? Will you obey?

I hope you will.

HelloMornings Winter Session

Registration for the Winter HelloMornings challenge is open now through Wednesday, January 23rd!

  • Session runs January 28th – April 26th (13 weeks)
  • Anyone (female!) is welcome to join a group, though space is limited.
  • Participants will receive the latest Quench Bible study, Abounding Hope. (Releases Thursday, January 17th.)

How to Register

Here is a quick bird’s-eye-view of the what you need to do. Click the grey button below when you are ready to sign up!

  • Step 1: Get the HelloMornings blog email, to receive challenge announcements and tips for the journey.
  • Step 2: Get a group. If you are a part of an existing group, and pre-registered in December, you can skip step 2.
  • Step 3: Get ready. You don’t have to wait to get a jump start on your mornings!

Or, if you would like to learn more about the HelloMornings challenge, jump on over to our FAQ page.

About Katie
Grace-clinger. Truth-speaker. Pastor’s wife. Mommy of three. Auburn fan. Loves to equip others to walk with the Lord for a lifetime. Co-author of Savoring Living Water: How to have an effective quiet time and author of Focused15 Bible studies. Creator of Do Not Depart where you can receive encouragement and tools to abide in God’s Word.

Becoming a Happy Mom

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I walk down the stairs feeling defeated, especially frustrated with my inconsistencies.

A few weeks ago I got all gung-ho about freezer meal planning. This past week we ate out more then we dined in.

One day is a great day of homeschool. The next am ready to send them all away to public school…in Africa.

As I brush my teeth I can’t help but think about how tired I have become with trying to be a good mom. The pursuit of all the ideals of motherhood often leaves me paralyzed—especially when there are many “best” ways to choose from.

While I floss I secretly wish someone could just come tell me what to do. “Katie, this is the best path, the best choice for you and your kids. Go do that.” Yet, I know that is not how it works.

I lift my tired feet into bed and settle down under my comfy sheets. A bit disillusioned, I pick up where I left off reading and not but a few pages into the chapter I read wisdom.

I believe there is no “one right way.” God calls each of us to seek Him, to look for his wisdom to follow where he calls us by faith, and it will be a different story for each family, marriage, and individual mom or dad. To walk that uncertain line we must trust that God will be faithful to lead and guide us…

I found that the more we walked with God, the more we felt called to live our own puzzle according to the integrity of the husband, wife, and parents God has made us, within the limitations of our own personalities…

A happy mom who is secure in herself and it using our life is a rare gift the children love and appreciate.  

Sally Clarkson, Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe

A happy mom.

I want to be happy mom.

I don’t want my kids to have memories of me, tear stained and crying in the corner. I pray they will forget the anger, the yelling, and my head buried in the puzzle. I hope they don’t recognize when I run to my phone and computer to escape reality.

Mommy guilt robs me of so many happy moments with my kids.

Of course, it requires faith to be yourself, to embrace your own ideals and family design. But living according to the voice of God’s spirit is always the way to freedom, joy, and fulfillment. Living by faith and cultivating your own purposes give you energy to pursue what is on your heart and to take your children along with you in the advancing of those ideals.  

Sally Clarkson, Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe

So ladies, let’s have ideals for our kids, for our family dynamics, and for ourselves. But, let us not forget who we are—who God made us uniquely to be. Let’s not force something that should never be, and keep ourselves in the motherhood box of someone else’s gifts. And let us never try to be anything without His empowering Spirit fueling us toward becoming the mother he has planned specifically for us.

Let’s let go of the guilt of everything we are not, and enjoy our kids without the comparison of what others are doing. Our children don’t want our plans and our good meals, they just want our time and attention.

Are you a happy momma? What robs you of the joy of being with your children? Which ideals do you need to let go of, and seek a better fit for your family?  Let’s chat about it in the comments.


Katie Orr, HelloMornings Director
Jesus-lover. Pastor’s wife. Mommy of three. Grace-clinger. Truth-speaker. Auburn fan.

Co-author of Savoring Living Water: How to have an effective quiet time and author of Focused15 Bible studies. Creator of Do Not Depart where you can receive encouragement and tools to abide in God’s Word.