It was the only time I ever cried while listening to a podcast.
It was a business interview. The podcaster, Chris, was talking with New York Times best selling author, John Maxwell. Chris was clearly honored and excited to be interviewing John. The interview itself was fascinating, but it was the last 3 minutes that made me cry.
First, John took a several minutes to tell Chris what an excellent interviewer he had been. He named specific things he had done well. You could tell it wasn’t flattery but honest, heartfelt and intentional encouragement from an older man to a younger one.
Chris remained professional, but you could tell he felt like a 12 year old girl who just got complimented by Taylor Swift. He was so moved.
And then I cried. You see, Chris had mentioned in some earlier small talk that his daughter was ill. At the end of the interview, John asked if he could pray for Chris’ daughter. And he did. Tears.
I’ve listened to a LOT of podcasts, but I’d never heard anything like that. It was so unexpected and powerful. John just sounded like a very wise man who is moved to do what is right and not what is expected.
What Does This Have To Do With Motherhood?
I kind of like this book.
I’ve always wondered how that happens. Why do some people grow in “wisdom and stature” and others don’t? This book answers that question in the first chapter. It’s called The Law of Intentionality.
The Importance of Being Intentional
Mr. Maxwell says that we often have “one or more mistaken beliefs that create a gap that keeps you from growing and reaching your potential.”
Here are the 8 Gaps that he identifies. I just think this is so simple yet brilliant.
- The Assumption Gap – “I assume I will automatically grow.”
- The Knowledge Gap – “I don’t know how to grow.”
- The Timing Gap – “It’s not the right time to begin.”
- The Mistake Gap – “I’m afraid of making mistakes.”
- The Perfection Gap – “I have to find the best way before I start.”
- The Inspiration Gap – “I don’t feel like doing it.”
- The Comparison Gap – “Others are better than I am.”
- The Expectation Gap – “I thought it would be easier than this.”
The Thing About Motherhood
The thing about Motherhood is that there is no Motherhood University. There is no step by step program. At any given time we can struggle with all of these Gaps. The goal, then is to recognize them as barriers to our growth as mothers.
“Our floor is our children’s ceiling.” -unknown
I don’t want to survive motherhood or endure it. I don’t want to be comfortable and safe. I want to struggle and push my boundaries so that I can be all God has for me and give my children the best start possible.
So I choose to grow. It’s hard and it hurts and I fail more than I’d like. But I’m determined to learn and to work and to change.
But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all men generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him. -James 3:17
Identify Your Gap
My biggest struggles are in the Knowledge Gap, the Perfection Gap and the Inspiration Gap (yes, even “Inspired to Action, doesn’t always feel inspired…).
I’ll be writing about this book all year long. It’s the sort of book I don’t want to just read but I want to apply. I hope you’ll join me. You can get it on Amazon or at your local bookstore.
I pray we’ll all look back on 2013 as the year we grew. And grew. And grew.
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