Why People Do Hard Things
Marathons are hard. Boot camp is hard. Graduate school is hard. So why do people do them?
They do them because they want a new name: Marathoner, Marine, Doctor.
Motherhood is Hard
Motherhood is hard. (You can say that again!)
Motherhood is hard…and we make it harder because we do it for the wrong reason.
For so long, I thought motherhood was about my children. I thought that the goal of a great mother was to churn out great kids.
But I am realizing that incorrect perspective is one of the greatest sources of my impatience and frustration with my children.
I get frustrated when they act up in public. I get impatient when they don’t obey quickly. We get into power struggles when they exert their own will. I raise my voice when they don’t listen.
My attitude, responses and contentment are largely based on the responses of children who cry when they get the peanut card in Candyland.
That is absurd.
A New Perspective
Like an upside-down book, I was looking at motherhood all wrong…and making it so much harder.
Motherhood isn’t about making my kids make right choices. Motherhood is about me making right choices. Day in and day out. When I feel like it and when I don’t. When it’s hard and when it’s easy.
Motherhood is about changing me…not my children.
The best I can do is to show them what following God looks like, what good choices look like, what love looks like. My job is to invite them to journey alongside me, teach them as much as I can and pray for them constantly.
Ultimately, though, their responses and decisions I must entrust to the grace of God. Unlike a marathon, boot camp or grad school, following all the rules doesn’t mean I get the prize of perfect kids.
What Is the “Prize” for Great Mothers then…?
Our prize then, is Grace. To fully live it, fully embrace it, fully know it, and fully give it.
In every challenging moment, grace is both our sustenance and our reward.
People do hard things to challenge and change themselves; to come out the otherside with a new identity. Marathoner, Marine, Doctor.
May we emerge from the trenches of motherhood with a new identity…Graceful.
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p.s. Bonus points if you can tell me why the second picture in the post is completely absurd. This is at a place in my town and it cracks me up every time I see it.Leave a Comment