I’m hoping to teach my kids about serving others this summer rather than just wasting away under layers of sunscreen. But we did go to the pool the other day. And all the college girls in bikinis reminded me: I have to guard my eyes.
We teach our boys and pray for our men, but let me just tell you, I need to guard my own eyes. Because I’m wired to compare myself. And it can happen before I get everyone’s goggles out of the swim bag.
The Comparison Trap
Comparing ourselves to others steals from us. It steals our joy in Christ. It blinds us to the ways He’s designed us individually and purposefully. And if we fall in the comparison pit, we will find ourselves sulking in the shade because they don’t have stretch marks.
Maybe you or I don’t physically look like someone else. We may sag or have wrinkles or cover the grey. But I pray we open our ears to the truths from the mouth of our Lord. I pray we have a fresh desire for the favor of our God. He’s the One who looks at the heart, not at our waistline.
He takes our cute little face into His massive hands and says, “Lift your eyes up, sweet daughter, and look at Me. Look at My face. I say that you are absolutely adorable. Believe Me. Believe what I say about you.”
For you formed my inward parts;
you knitted me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
Wonderful are your works;
my soul knows it very well.
Staying on Guard
So when we’re at the pool this summer and we’re tempted to compare ourselves, let’s do three things.
1. Guard our eyes. Look at our kids. Look at a book. Look at the sky. But let’s guard our eyes so we don’t fall into the comparison trap.
2. Remember what He says. When temptation comes, pray and repeat Scripture to Him. Recite the words of our God. Remember true things.
3. Pray for the one we’re comparing ourselves to. Because chances are she struggles too.
Comparing ourselves to others will waste our time and steal our joy. And who wants that kind of summer?!
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