(A Note from Kat: Today’s guest post is from my lovely new friend Joy, who blogs wisdom at Grace Full Mama.)
“â€¦the children who actually end up performing better are those who understand that their relationship with God doesn’t depend on their performance for Jesus but on Jesus’s performance for them.” -Tullian Tchividjian
Stop the Spin Cycle
For many years, although I knew the gospel story in my head, it wasn’t a reality in my day. As a first-born pastor’s kid of a large church, I spent most of my growing up years sick with anxiety and guilt over not being good enough in some area of my life.
In my mind, there was some magical measuring stick that I was jumping up trying to reach, and I was never making it. I was searching for the elusive thing that would make me “good enough” and trying to keep all of those plates spinning, or at least keep everyone thinking they were spinning.
But inside that is what I was doing, spinning. It wasn’t until I truly understood this verse that I was able to embrace the true message of the Gospel:
“For it is by grace you have been saved and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God.” Ephesians 2:8-9
And, now I want to pass that radical acceptance on to my precious children. I want to stop the cycle of spinning.
What about you? Do you want your children to obey one more list of rules? One more box to check on their list of “good enough”?
Or, do you want to lead your children into the most amazing grace they have ever experienced? Do you want them to taste the fruit of true acceptance and help them to know exactly where they stand?
How to Stop The Spin Cycle for Your Children:
1. Let your failings lead you and your kids to the Cross. Be honest with your kids when you fail. Don’t hide it. Admit it, and show them that you are a recipient of amazing grace just the same as them.
2. Preach it to yourself first. Do you believe that you are enough because He is enough? Have you let it sink down into your bones? Do you really understand how vile of a sinner you are and how MUCH the Savior did for you?
3. Tell them the Story. The Gospel story is the one thing that your children should hear again and again. Start and end the day with it. Let it always be on your tongue.
Find some time today to get alone with yourself and your Bible. Read these words, and let them sink into your soul. Let the Lord tell you that He has done all that needs to be done. And let that spill over into your parenting today.
Joy is the proud wife of a missionary pilot and blessed mommy to five. She and her family live in Indonesia.
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