One of the biggest mistakes we make when trying to make a life change is to confuse goals and habits. More often than not, we set a goal when what we really want is a new habit.
All habits that stick are usually easy to start. No one forces themselves to start biting their nails or crack their knuckles. No small child decides to start sucking their thumb by saying, “Ok, it totally grosses me out, but I’m just going to go ahead and do this for thirty minutes today and then up it to an hour tomorrow.”
We start bad habits because they are easy, simple, and we find some kind of a benefit to them. Good habits shouldn’t start any differently.
Habits Are Easy. Goals Are Hard.
But usually we try to start a goal instead of a habit, and that is a recipe for disaster.
Because a goal inherently has an end point. Run a marathon. Lose 50 pounds. We work very hard to achieve these goals and feel that once we succeed we deserve a little break. And rightly so.
But if we set those goals because our ultimate desire is to live healthier, very small incremental simple changes as part of a detailed overall plan are much more likely to bring long term life change.
Setting goals requires us to push things temporarily out of our lives that will find their way back in. it’s like trying to keep your house clean by just tidying up after your kids. The house will get clean, but it is also certainly going to get messy again.
Creating a habit is like actually teaching your children to clean up after themselves. It takes longer. It must be done more slowly, and its much more of a commitment. But the reward is priceless.
Creating a habit requires us to eliminate an old one and fill it slowly with the new one. The faster we try to make this exchange the more painful and difficult it is.
So as you work to Maximize Your Mornings, remember that you’re creating a habit. O’dark thirty isn’t your goal, connecting with Him is.Leave a Comment