I figure I’ll get the feather ruffling out of the way early in this series.
Most moms, especially new moms, go through a martyrdom phase. We somehow think that the more we sacrifice, the higher we move up in the awesome mom rankings.
I specifically remember hearing one mom of 6 (who had plenty of help) declare, “I haven’t slept through the night in 16 years.”
That’s not awesome. That’s dumb.
(Note: This isn’t about a new mom who is enduring a season of sleeplessness. This is about those who make it a life pattern – unnecessarily.)
“Wow, Kat. A bit harsh, are we?”
Maybe, but I really want to get this point across. If we consistently put our children’s wants before our needs, we create a firestorm of unrealistic expectations, physical exhaustion, emotional stress and spiritual emptiness.
Moms are not called to be martyrs. We’re called to be leaders. Leaders can’t lead if they’re dead.
“Still with the harshness, Kat?”
Sorry. I’m on a roll…
You’re job as a mom isn’t to give to your children out of what you sacrifice. That is finite. Your job is to pass out torches from what burns inside and makes you come alive.
So, today, I want you to take some time to really think about your needs. What do you need to “come alive?” Are you sacrificing sleep, your marriage, emotional well being, needed relationships or personal health in lieu of the wants of your children?
What are your needs? Are they being met right now?
(The line between needs and wants is a very, very fine line, but through prayer, I trust that God will make it clear.)