I’ve finally realized why it is I try to be Supermom. It’s because I can’t decide what is most important so I just try to do it all…which is impossible and leaves me feeling defeated. Rinse. Repeat.
The root of my desire to do everything is actually indecisiveness. Weird, I know…but I think its true.
We MUST make hard decisions about what is most important and ignore the rest until that one thing is done. Obviously, we can tend to actual needs, but we must discern between needs and wants.
If I want to maximize my mornings, and I don’t have a habit of Bible reading, planning OR exercising — tackling all those at one time is a recipe for failure.
In the military, field hospitals must do something called triage. They need to make incredibly hard decisions about who they can direct their precious resources towards.
They decide who they cannot help and they must make a conscious effort to actually NOT help them because to do so would reduce the chances another might live. They have to leave other patients in pain if their injuries are not life threatening. They focus the bulk of their resources on those for whom they can make the biggest impact.
It’s time to triage your life.
Moms have a lot of responsibilities, but if asked, every mom has certain stated priorities. I imagine many of you would list your priorities like this:
1. Relationship with God
2. Relationship with husband
3. Relationship with children
I would make the same list, but it wasn’t until a few years ago that my actions actually began to reflect those priorities. When they started to align, it was a massive turning point in my life and I began transforming from who I was into who God made me to be. I have so far to go, but I have also come so far from where I was.
If you remember anything from this post, remember this:
We will run in endless circles until our actions align with our priorities.
Front line doctors MUST make their actions align with their priorities.
They may have to make brutally hard decisions. They might have powerful reasons and outside pressure, from patients, friends, family, to operate outside of their priorities, but if they don’t treat those whom they can help most, they will lose more patients than they save.
There will be great casualties for their lack of integrity.
As moms, we must live each day with the integrity of our word. We can always find an excuse to not do what we say is important to us, but we need to be braver than that.
We must either be willing to say, “No that is not actually a priority right now and I will not spend my time on it right now.” Or we must say, “Yes, that is priority right now and I will do everything within my power to make it happen. ”
Girl, it’s going to be uncomfortable, but comfort is overrated.
People will be disappointed, but the only approval you need is from the One who appointed you.
You’ll have to fight yourself and the excuses every single day, but you are a fighter. Get your game face on.
The only place to find our super power is on our knees.
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