This post was written by contributor Lara Williams.
Our dinner table has felt circus-like lately. Our kids have been talking over one another, flipping around in their seats, and karate-chopping apples (that only happened once). The slow progression to slight madness finally pushed us to our limits.
“Dinnertime is changing, people.”
It finally dawned on us that our kids didn’t know how to have a dinner conversation. And we needed to teach them. *duh*
So youngest to oldest, they take turns asking someone a question. It may be a question about the other person’s day or about their likes. Then once the person answers the question, we encourage them to ask a “deeper,” follow-up question, i.e. how did/does that make you feel?
And it’s actually working!
We want our kids to learn to esteem others higher than themselves. That means we listen more than we speak. We think about the perspective and challenges of others. And we get to know the heart behind our brother’s words.
Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.
The dinner table is just one more place to teach them true things. (And maybe at this rate, we’ll dodge the clown suit.)
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