One “Accessory” to Help Kids Make Good Choices

I used to have that hover-mother syndrome. You know the one. It’s when we as moms try to shelter and control our kids, nervous and fearful over their (inevitable) mistakes. But God has (mostly) freed me from that. I’m learning to release them into His control, trusting that the truths I imperfectly teach them will eventually stick and affect their choices.

Don’t get me wrong. I set boundaries. We have internet protection and fairly strict movie guidelines. But I’ve learned that we cannot keep our kids from seeing or hearing everything that dishonors the Lord. We cannot hide them away in a bubble. Nor should we want to.

They need to learn how to make choices in our fallen world. They need to learn how to evaluate what they see and hear from God’s perspective. They need to learn how to depend upon Him to guide them.

Bible “Glasses”

So I’ve started challenging my kids to wear their “bible glasses.” Yes, they’re imaginary but oh-so-powerful. I tell them to put them on before watching a movie or reading a book. And then I ask how what they saw or read lines up with what God teaches.

 

cardboard 3-D glasses
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As a mom I want to teach them that the world is broken and it needs Jesus. I want to teach them that God calls them to be light in dark places. And I want them to learn how to evaluate life through the lens of His Truth.

Because as they grow, things like Magic Mike and 50 Shades will continue to be options. And I pray they eventually become adults that refuse to compromise. Adults that evaluate life through the lens of God’s Word.

How do you teach your kids to evaluate the things they see and hear in light of God’s teaching?
 

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  • Avatar Katie says:

    What a great and memorable idea. The m a g I c m I k e and 5 0 s h a d e s things have been bothering me lately. Plenty of the Christian women I know have been deceived by the enemy into thinking these are ok to watch/read, even when they would be horrified if their own husbands were into something similar. It’s been upsetting, to say the least. I’m thankful for my bible glasses. 🙂

    • Avatar lara says:

      I know what you mean. I’ve been a little shocked at the response from Christians. Praying for a fresh stirring of desire and love for God’s Word.

  • Thank you for sharing this. My husband and I just had a conversation this morning about whether or not we’d allow our (right now really young) children read popular books that may not be so popular among Christian circles. We both agreed that in some cases it would be all right as long as we used the book as an opportunity to teach our children to see the world through a biblical lens. Of course, we still have to exercise caution… both not to deceive our children through the books, and not to protect them from the world *too* much.

    • Avatar lara says:

      I’ve thought the same things. It’s so important to teach them how to evaluate this crazy world through Him. Blessings to you, sister!

  • Avatar Sara H says:

    This is such a great idea!! I’ve tried to explain that it’s important to see things that way, but it’s hard to start this late in the game. I think the glasses illustration will really help them. 🙂

  • Good topic. We’re in the midst of some discussions on this with our young adults. I’m looking forward to listening in on the comments.

  • Avatar Tracy Selle says:

    Lara, I absolutely LOVE this! Bible Glasses!!

    I have often talked to my son about filtering things through God’s word. The importance of knowing God’s word, so you’re able to do that.

    But using the term “Bible Glasses” is such a succinct way to remind. (And myself!)

    Absolutely fantastic.

    • Avatar lara says:

      Thanks, Tracy. It’s gotten to the point with my almost 8 yr old where I will say, “Are you watching that with your Bible glasses on?” She says, “Yes, I already put them on, mom.”

  • We teach our children also about having a Biblical perspective, but telling them to put on their Bible Glasses will definitely help the littlest ones to understand. Thanks!

  • Avatar Larri says:

    Timely post, Lara. Just last evening, LittleGirl and I crawled onto my bed for a few minutes of ‘girl time’ before bedtime. She wanted to watch a show together. After flipping through the channels, she landed on one. I said, “Nope. We can’t watch that. Try something else.”

    Well, that opened a can of worms. She wanted to know why she couldn’t watch it. I explained the show had too many innuendos disguised as comedy, and I didn’t want her to see that. She mulled it over, and then asked, “Well, do you watch THAT show?”

    I was proud I could answer, “Not any more. You know why? One night I had that show on, and I heard that tiny little voice from my heart whisper into my ear that this show was not something God wanted me to see. LittleGirl, I want my head & heart to be filled with good things, God things. If He’s whispering to me, I think I better’d listen. Don’t you?”

    She agreed. 🙂 And sorry…this was longer than I anticipated once I began writing. 😉

  • This past year we have memorized the book of James together, and my 11 year old and I often refer back to it. I love how James is so instructive: he gives a command and then explains it right away. So when something comes up either of us will look at the other and quote James. It has been wonderful to sit under the Word together with her. She decided to play a recording of it while she exercises, so she knows it better than I do.
    I like the concept of Bible glasses. Thank you for that image.

  • Avatar Kat Lee says:

    Lara,
    You know I’m all about analogies. I love the “Bible glasses” idea! Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with us, friend.

  • Avatar Joyce says:

    I love this! Bible glasses. I was just at a parent practicum where the speaker was talking about something similar. I’m sad that even movies/shows that are directed towards kids always have some kind of “adult” humor to it so that adults want to watch with the kids and won’t get bored. The kids are laughing because everyone else is laughing but they don’t really get that it’s “funny”…and it’s kinda not most of the time.

    I’m working on that hover-mother syndrome right now…

  • I am so busy reading and researching books, websites and resources for my kids that I didn’t even know that 50 shades of gray and Magic mike existed. I am glad because from the reviews and summaries I read, after I did a little googling, both books are trash.

    Yeah, busy making sure my kids are using their Bible glasses. When they do see trash infiltrated in the “safe” book I found, I make sure to point out the trash and then what the Bible says about it.

    Watch and pray, that’s what the Bible says. One can never be too safe about anything while in this fallen world. 🙁

  • Love this, and this is what my husband and I have attempted to do for years with our girls too. I just blogged on part of this today! Growing up in a porn culture. Kids have to be able to view the world through God’s eyes. I talked to my 3 teen girls yesterday about this. Mine are at the age where I’ve taught all I can, and now have to trust that they are following what we’ve taught, out of their own conviction. We do occasional check ins and still discuss things, but are at the point where we have to do a lot of trusting in the Lord, trusting in our kids, and in the relationship that they have with Him…as we continue to guide and support. We bring up things like Shades of Gray and Magic Mike, and discuss why we don’t support them, and ask a lot of questions of the girls….like what do they see? are their friends reading it, going to see it, what do you think about it?

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  • Avatar arcelia says:

    We have ‘Bible glasses’ too 🙂 God is teaching me it’s never too early to start teaching them to be transformed by the renewing of their mind through the Word of God. One of the things we do is before we go out the door we pray and I say, ‘OK transformers, mount up..’ of course I get silly giggles {and the kids giggle too}

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