The Year of Motherhood: Fruit of the Spirit

Six months into the challenge ….

This completes the sixth month for my YEAR OF MOTHERHOOD challenge that I started this year.  My whole intention with this challenge was not to compare myself to others, or to see how bad I am at certain areas of motherhood, or to point out how good I am at other aspects of mothering; no the whole point in my challenge was to do just that, to CHALLENGE myself to look deep inside myself and allow myself to focus more in depth on certain areas of my parenting each month.

So far, I have gotten up before my kids each morning, not been on the computer while they were awake, spent one-on-one time with each kid each week (attempted to do that!), planned family nights, tried to encourage them daily, and this month we focused on the FRUITS OF THE SPIRIT that Paul laid out for us in Galatians 5.  Doesn’t all that sound like I’m automatically up for mom-of-the-year?!

Talking about the Fruit of the Spirit

This month was so much fun and a big challenge as well.  I started out by ordering a book that would help me plan different activities for the kids to learn more about love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.  I basically just used this as a guide to a few activities that I did with the kids.  It was good and I’m sure everything that I did most of you super crafty moms could have come up with on your own, but for me it was a great help.

One night I was talking to Aaron on the phone while he was out of town and he asked me how talking with the kids was going, and I started venting my frustration about how they don’t really listen to me.  I felt like I was trying to give them truths from the scripture and they kept arguing, or fighting, or just not paying me a lick of attention.  I was a bit discouraged.

Two days later he was home and we were all around the table eating breakfast and Aaron asked them what they knew about the fruits of the spirit and to my surprise they all started saying stuff about each one.  I was amazed and super proud all at once.  He looked at me and I’m pretty sure I had tears in my eyes, because sure enough they had been listening even when I thought they didn’t care.


They are listening.

I think this is why God put these words for us in his scriptures, “You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.  And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart.  You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.  You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontless between your eyes.  You shall write them on the doorpost of your house and your gates.

I learned this month that God really knew what he was talking about when he told us to constantly talk to our kids about His Word.  Even when we think they are not listening to keep talking.  Even when we think they don’t care, keep on talking.  Even when we feel as though they are too little to understand this, keep talking.  God commands us to talk about His Word with our kids, and I’m starting to figure out that He knows what He’s talking about and has great reasons for His commands to us!


Next month … lots of praying

For the month of July I’m going to be praying more specifically for my kids.  I pray for them daily, but I’m hoping that in this month I can really identify some specific things I can go before the Father on their behalf about.  I know that once again this will have a huge impact on our home, my kids and especially me as well. 

I’m asking that God opens my eyes to the power that our prayers can have.


How do you pray for your kids?  I know I’ll be using Inspired to Actions prayer calendar for kids that I love already so much.   Join me in this journey this month of going before the LORD on behalf of our kid!  Click HERE to join this discussion!

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  • Would you mind sharing what book you ordered for teaching the fruit of the spirit? I’m one of those moms that need that extra help planning too.

  • Avatar erica says:

    would love to knwo the book you used! 🙂

  • Avatar Tracy Selle says:

    Hi Kat! I’ve been reading your blog for ages, but I admit to being more of a stalker than a commenter! Anyway, I had to comment today because I’m so amazed that your aren’t on the computer when your kids are awake. Seriously?! That is so fantastic. You set a great example for us all!

    • Avatar Jamie Ivey says:

      Tracy – I know you figured this out, but I did want to clarify something!! I wasn’t on my computer while my kids were awake for that specific month for my challenge. I for sure try very hard to not be on it when they are awake and needing me, but I admit it’s 9am and they are up and moving and I’m checking email. So …. yes I did that for the month of the challenge and it changed me lots and reprioritized my computer time, I find it almost impossible to not be on my computer when my kids are awake, especially in the summer, because they are always here!

  • Avatar Tracy Selle says:

    Okay Kat….just realized that this post wasn’t written by you, but a guest poster.

    Still…I’m so impressed with this example!

  • Avatar Melanie says:

    I’d like to know the name of that book as well!

    • Avatar Kat Lee says:

      Jamie says it’s called “Kids’ Travel Guide to the Fruit of the Spirit” and she got it at Amazon. Hope that helps!

  • Avatar Gabreial W. says:

    This was a wonderful post and much needed for me. Thanks so much.

  • Avatar Crystal Ashworth says:

    Thank you so much for posting this. This is the second time I’ve heard of the Year of Motherhood this week. Definitely need to check it out. 🙂

    Thank you for sharing your heart, your frustration, and also the realization that the kids are listening, God is there when you are writing the words on their heart.

    • Avatar Jamie Ivey says:

      Thanks a lot. It was a great moment for me as a mom to feel as though my words weren’t just going into thin air, but they were taking some of them in!

  • Avatar Amy says:

    I like that concept but I’m struggling with how to implement it. My oldest is 2 and I have a 4 month old – how do you talk to them about God?

    • Avatar Jamie Ivey says:

      Amy this is so hard, and my advice to you would be to just talk about God in the same way you talk about anything with your two year old. They take in much more than you think. Pray to God at night and during the day. Thank God for your food. Thank God for your house. Pray over them. Let them see you praying and talking to God. In everything you do, you can talk about God. When you go on a walk, point out all that God made and there you have the creation story. When your 2 year old disobeys, talk about discipline, and show grace and there you have the story of salvation and grace from God. I remember those days so vividly and you feel so tired that you can hardly talk about anything much less God. Amy I’m praying for you today as I type this. Praying that God would give you the eyes to see moments that you never saw before where you can talk about God with your kids. 🙂

      • Avatar Amy says:

        Thank you so much Jamie. It really is a struggle.

      • Avatar erica says:

        Anytime my son has ever gotten injured (fell down, etc) I have prayed by laying my hands on him and praying out loud. Now he just turned 2 and if I ask him to pray for me (for headache, etc), he immediately drops what he is doing and comes over and lays his hands on me! I say the prayer for him since he doesnt know how to come up with a prayer by himself but he sure ends with AMEN! 🙂 Its awesome!!

  • Avatar Emily says:

    Kids hear more than we know. Which can be a scary thought, but also, as in this case, a blessing. My constant challenge is to watch what I say in front of DS.

  • Avatar Belinda says:

    I love your site ,i love jesus and want to please him, iam a mum i think ,i need the lord to help me not get ,upset with my daughter /9/y old mum i want a hug,…………….hug………..hug……….and more hugs. i give her a ,but i find i have no time for jesus husband work my bible study .so anger comes in ,and the holy sprit goes ,i feel bad,i have to go now ,i chat soon. love bel.