Where had this information been all my life?!
If only I had known when I felt like I was going to lose it on the last day of a college mission trip after being with people nonstop for 7 days.
If only I’d known on family vacations that left me feeling like I needed another vacation.
If only I’d known as a new mom when my children went EVERYWHERE with me and I tortured myself with guilt for feeling the need to get away.
If only I’d known I was an introvert.
I thought introverts were quiet, shy people who don’t talk much and stayed away from crowds. That wasn’t me. I loved people. I loved making others laugh and making new friends. Surely I wasn’t an intervert…
An Introvert Is…
But the true definition of an introvert has nothing to do with being shy or disliking crowds. An introvert is simply someone who is refreshed and energized by solitude. There are outgoing introverts just as often as there are shy introverts.
This truth revolutionized my world. I started allowing myself to sit quietly for a few minutes alone each day. I told my husband and began to be intentional about regrouping after putting the kids to bed and before joinng him in the living room. I made sure to get a room to myself when attending a new conference or event that might feel overwhelming. I started running.
I’m nicer now…and more patient. I can recognize when I need solitude before I start to unravel. It has also helped me to understand my children and their unique personalities as well.
How Well Do You Know Yourself?
As moms, it’s so easy for us to be consumed with the needs of others – God calls us to lay our lives down for others. That’s what He did. But He also made each of us differently. He gave us certain personalities and strengths to help us do what He as called us to do. The better we understand the tools we have been given, the better we can use them.
If you haven’t thought about your needs lately, if you have never taken the time to get to know yourself, can I challenge you to do that today?
STEP 1: Pray.
Ask God to show you how He made you. Ask Him for insights into how you can thrive for His glory. Pray and journal each day this week. You’ll be amazed at what you learn about yourself.
STEP 2: Take a personality test.
I’ve taken the Myers Briggs tests online. They’re shortened versions of the real thing, but they are insightful and free. Bonus.
Take one of these tests and note the attributes that resonate with you.
Jung Typology Test – a version of the well known Myers-Briggs test.
Similar Minds – A 53 question adapted version of the Myers Briggs Test
Personality pathways – A super short, simple version of the test along with lots of information about each personality type.
STEP 3: Schedule refreshment.
Do you know what you need? Are you an introvert – do you need time alone? Or are you an extrovert – do you need time with others?
What refreshes you? What fills your tank? Find out and plan it.
Put something on the calendar today.
Let The Olympic Analogy Floodgates Open…
(Only 32 days until the Olympics!! Be prepared, I’m sure I’ll be bursting with analogies.)
Just because Michael Phelps is athletic, doesn’t mean he should be a jockey too. His frame is made for swimming. What are you made for?
Just because you’re a mom doesn’t mean you need to be perfectly organized AND super fun and crazy AND supremely empathetic and sympathizing AND an incredible housekeeper AND a gourmet cook AND (fill-in-the-blank).
While we should work to be balanced, we need to lay down the notion that we should ever expect to be perfect at everything.
Get to know how God made you and what He made you for, then dive in and thrive.
(See what I did there? Dive…Michael Phelps…completing the analogy circle… Sigh. I have 32 days to practice.)
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