The Year of Motherhood: Themed Family Nights

April Family Night – Recap!

My April challenge was to plan a family night each week that was more than dinner and a movie.

I feel like my husband, Aaron, and I spend a good amount of quality family time with our kids, but for some reason I felt as though we needed a little boost to our nights.  I wanted to put a little pep in our step and bring them up a notch. 

Our first family night was a LUAU FAMILY NIGHT theme and it was so much fun with the kids.  I learned that on one hand it was super easy because it’s food we would have normally eaten, and I didn’t have to buy much to make the night special.  We played limbo with a broomstick I found in the backyard, and silly straws and virgin pina colada’s don’t cost too much these days!  The kids loved it.  At one point I looked at Aaron and thought, I could do this.  I could plan something like this every week and be a really “good” mom!

The next family night snuck up on me and I was not as prepared. Around 5:30pm I was still at the grocery store and texting everyone I knew in our neighborhood asking if they had a tent that we could borrow for our camping theme night.  We finally got a tent, and finally got dinner made and in the end had one of the kids favorite desserts, but it was stressful for me, and I felt like I was more concerned with feeling like we were “camping” than I was with hanging out with my kids.  Sure they ate in the tent, but I’m not sure I talked to them at all during the dinner.  I could check another family night off the calendar.

That family night left me feeling defeated.

Another night was completely unplanned and we ended up making nachos late at night with our boys while watching a movie.  Aaron looked at me and we kind of had the look that we both knew what we were both thinking.  We both knew that this was a memory night.  Completely unplanned and no theme at all, unless you call it a “How-much-gross-food-can-you-eat-in-one-night” theme!  My kids thought it was hilarious that we put a TV in their room and let them eat nachos on the floor while we watched a movie.  It was out of the box and so fun for them.  I didn’t plan this theme.  

It was just life happening and it was perfect.

Themed family nights have been fun and they’ve also been draining.

I’ve learned this month that each mom is different and I need to know my limits.  Planning themed nights is not my thing, and I can say this with all confidence…. I’m.okay.with.this.  For me, I’ll still do a theme night every once in a while, because my kids loved it.  I’ll also not stress about them, because my kids also just love it when we’re together eating nachos on the floor in their room just because.  No theme necessary.  Just because.

The Next Motherhood Challenge

My challenge for May is to encourage each of my kids daily.

To say this out loud seems very elementary, but the point of this month is to stop and really talk to my kids each day.  If you are like me, you wake up; get them to school and when you pick them up from school the whirl wind starts.  The hours between 4 and 8 pm should be the sweetest, but sometimes they are the craziest.  Baseball practice, homework, piano lessons, church stuff, dates nights, etc. etc. etc.

I want to slow down each day and spend time exhorting my children.

I want to look at them and find their strengths and encourage them in them daily.  Unfortunately this will be a challenge for me.  Instead of seeing so many areas that need improvement I’m asking God to help me see the areas they are succeeding in and encourage them there.  In Hebrews the writer tells us to “exhort one another every day, as long as it is called “today,” that none of you maybe be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin”.  That’s what I want for my kids.  I want to be their biggest fan and encourager.

Will you join me this month in becoming your kid’s biggest fans?

Together, let’s find ways to encourage our kids every single day.  When they are driving you nuts, find something good in them that is worthy of encouragement.  Let’s cheer our kids on with encouragement this month and all the months to come!

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