The Best Advice I Heard at the Mom Heart Conference (and Hello Mornings Meet Up Photos)

By February 19, 2012Get Inspired
(This was the view from my hotel room. Sally knows how to pic conference hotels!)

The easiest way to be a great mom is to learn from great moms.

That’s why I love Sally Carkson so much. She’s a wonderful mother who has raised four amazing children AND she has a passion for helping, teaching, and encouraging young moms.

This weekend I had the opportunity to attend Sally’s Mom Heart Conference in Dallas with my friend Jenni. It was so encouraging and refreshing to hear Sally and other moms share their wisdom. Here is the biggest nugget of wisdom that stuck with me.

Am I my child’s adversary or advocate?

Adversary: In your face parenting.
Advocate: In your heart parenting.
I know I can sometimes focus so much on my children’s behavior that I lose sight of their heart. I become their adversary instead of their advocate.
“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” Eph. 6:4
I want to spend more time connecting than correcting. I want to be intentional and “offensive” – meaning that I think ahead and teach them things they will need to know, instead of just being “defensive” and reacting to things they’ve already done wrong.
Whew. Good, but challenging realization.

Hello Mornings Meet Up

We had a fun Hello Mornings Meet Up on Saturday…morning. Of course. Here are a few pics:

It was so fun to see these lovely ladies. The Mom Heart Conference was like a little Relevant Conference reunion. I saw Heather, Stefanie, Michelle, Michelle, Courtney, Angela, Patti and Eryn there. Good times. I also got to meet several new blog friends (hey Mandy ) at the Hello Mornings Meet Up!

And You…?

As you go about your day today, I hope you’ll think about whether each interaction with your child is as their advocate or their adversary. I’m praying that each of our children will feel as though they have no better coach and no bigger cheerleader than us!


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  • Amy says:

    So good. The world is busy correcting, I however have the gift of connecting with my son. I will not take that for granted. And “in you heart” parenting. Yes! Thank you for sharing.

  • i don’t have kids yet, but i am saving this information for when i do. i love this advice!

  • sunshine says:

    You constantly inspire me!!! I get your posts through email and I love to share them with others. Thank you SO much for sharing what you learned at the conference. Sunshine

  • Alicia says:

    I was there!!! It was amazing and your speech was inspiring! I learned soooo much, the Lord defenitly opened my eyes up!

  • Joyce says:

    “I want to spend more time connecting than correcting.”

    Awesome! Great thoughtful words. I think when we connect with our kids, they are more likely to want to correct themselves.

  • Gillian says:

    Yes, that fits right with how I’ve been thinking recently… and was soemthing I needed to hear – but not for my kids: for my husband.

  • Erin says:

    Thank you. This could not have come at a more perfect time. Your posts are so inspiring.