A note from Kat: As weird as it sounds, even though we’ve never met, I’ve “known” Jamie Ivey for many years. We’ve read each other’s blogs for quite awhile and I have always admired her vulnerability, tenacity and willingness to follow Jesus outside of her comfort zone.
Jamie is a mother of 4 from Austin. Two of her children are from Haiti. I remember when the Haiti earthquake hit, my first thought was for Jamie and her family. They were still in the process of the adoption and half of her heart was in Haiti. Here is what happened. This will be the best few minutes you spend in front of your computer today.
And this post right here is why I love Jamie so much. Try not to be challenged and inspired after reading that!
Well, Jamie is going to be doing a new series here at Inspired to Action. She has been on a journey she calls The Year of Motherhood. She is focusing each month on a new challenge to be the best mom she can be for her kids. And she has agreed to share her journey here and invite us along.
There is so much more I could tell you about Jamie, but for now, go check out her blog, enjoy today’s post, watch the video and stay tuned each month for the update on her challenge. Without further ado, here’s Jamie:
When 2011 was coming to a close and 2012 was in my sight I started to think about how I was as a mom for the past year. There were certain thoughts of joy and happiness, but there were also thoughts of feeling as though I wasn’t giving it my all, and that there were some areas in my life that could use a slight kick in the pants!
I decided that I was going to dedicate 2012 to working on ways that I could improve as a mom. This would be the year I would tackle a challenge each month that would spur me on to being a better mom. It’s not that I feel like a bad mom, but sometimes I just need a little wake up to the fact that this time is fleeting and my babies will one day be gone and I want to make the best use of the time I have with them.
I developed a plan of action. For each month in 2012 I will dedicate that month to improving on one thing I feel as a mom could be improved upon. Basically I made 12 New Year’s Resolutions!
I also knew that these 12 months are not what define me as a mom or a person. I had to have a big heart-to-heart with Jesus and know that the term “good mom” is not what I’m striving to be.
I’m not striving to earn the approval of my other mom friends.
I’m striving to be all that I can be for my kids, knowing that I am already approved by God who loves me deeply no matter how many mornings I do get up before my kids, or snooze and make us all late to school. I am loved and accepted already. This challenge is not about living up to some “good mom” standard.
So with that understanding I went out deciding all the things that I wanted to improve on. It was fun to actually sit down and dream about what I could do each month to make our house more peaceful, calm, and point us all to Jesus more.
The January Challenge
For January I decided that I would start with one that I knew would make an immediate change in our home, and that was me getting up before my kids each day. Like you guys, I have read Kat’s inspiring “hello morning” posts and honestly always thought it wasn’t that big of a deal. I mean I’m a night owl, you can’t expect me to get up early.
I’m happy to say that January’s challenge was a game changer in our home. This was something that changed our home so much, that I still try my hardest 6 days a week to greet my children with a smile as I wake them up, and not have our home be in chaos as we run around because we all over-slept!
The February Challenge
I had no idea that the February challenge would be so hard, but I would say this has been harder for me than getting up early and that is saying a lot because this momma loves to sleep in every day.
I challenged myself to not be on my computer when my kids were home and awake. A few months ago, my kids were getting ready for bed and I had my computer sitting on the couch and I was on it, probably wasting time on facebook, or checking emails. My kids were doing their thing and one of my sons, Deacon, was waiting on me to read with him.
He was getting a little annoyed and impatient when he looked at me and said “Fine Mom don’t read with me, I’ll just tell my teacher you couldn’t put down your computer to read with me and that’s why I don’t have my work done.”
After I pulled the arrow out of my heart, I slowly closed my computer because there is nothing that I could have been working on that would have been more important in that moment than reading with my son.
I had completely ignored him and although to me it was just a simple check of email, or a quick look at facebook, to him I was saying that he was not as important as whatever was on my computer. I picked him up and held him and apologized for not reading with him.
It was at that moment that I knew I needed to be careful with my computer time.
The March Challenge
Next month I’m challenging myself to spend one on one time with each kid each week. This will be a challenge for our family logistically, since we have four kids and busy schedules.
My husband, Aaron, and I greatly desire quality time one on one with our kids, but in this busy life that we lead sometimes that is a great challenge and we want to overcome that this month. It will take planning ahead and making exceptions for certain things and giving and taking on our part, but this month I plan to get great quality time with each of my kids each week.
That’s four kids each getting alone time with mom. My kids are going to love this! Wanna join me?