Four Essentials to a Stress-Free Bedtime

By December 14, 2011General, Get Inspired

(Note from Kat: This is a guest post from the always amazing Katie Orr.)

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Stick to It

Consistency is key! We can tell our kids what the plan is all we want, but if we don’t follow through kids drift towards chaos. I often find myself getting distracted with checking email or working on something other than keeping them on task. It usually ends with my kids, half dressed, making big messes in their room—or worse—half naked in the bathroom and toothpaste all over the mirror! Kids know when mom means business, and when I’m off trying to multi-task while they brush their teeth, it does not usually end well.

Shannon tells:


Determine What Each Child Needs

Most of the getting up out of bed is not complete disobedience. Like their mommy, they forget to do things once they have laid in bed; they have a hard time falling asleep when there is something on their mind; they can be really sleepy, but hunger or thirst distracts. Doing a bit of thinking ahead can keep everyone on track for bedtime.

I like what Tricia shared:


Keep the End in Mind

Bedtime can be a pleasant end to our days, with one last chance to connect with the hearts of our children. As we provide a routine for our children, we must also expect and encourage obedience. Not just to produce kids who go to bed without creating stress to momma. The ultimate goal is to train these precious heart to submit to God.

I love how Rebecca puts it:

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Did you try any of these tips? How did it go?

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  • Jen says:

    Yes! I set up a rountine that included the things that they always call us back for –snacks, drinks, visits, stories…
    So the rountine goes jammies, snack/drink, teeth/potty, ONE story, prayers. Then they each got an index card that said “one visit from mom or dad” That they can cash in for a little 5 minute visit. We cannot believe how well bedtime is going now! Wayyyy less frustration and whining! Thanks for all the suggetions mamas! The final frontier is getting my 8 month old not to nurse all night long and I might feel normal again 🙂

  • These are great points. I think it’s a little different for special needs kids. My son is 10 and has cerebral palsy and functions better without a set time. He is most comfortable falling asleep at his own pace. Of course, he doesn’t call for things like snacks. He typically just is. He’s a sweet little boy with little demands.

  • Fred says:

    I la la LOVE this post! The routine is very simple but useful enough to have a stress -free during bedtime. Thanks you for sharing this ideas.

  • Emily says:

    Our incentive for getting DH to get ready for bed in a timely manner is that afterwards, he gets about 15 minutes of YouTube videos (he doesn’t watch TV). Then we take him to bed, briefly pray and tuck him in. No arguing, no woes, no pleading to stay up (although that did happen briefly earlier this yr).

  • Joyce says:

    Routine has been the key for us. It’s been tricky with the holiday festivities. Hope to get back to a “normal” routine soon though.