My house was messy. The was sink full of dishes. My email inbox was exploding. So, I went to a cozy restaurant to discuss the nuances and hidden themes of the Boxcar Children series.
The Pareto Principle
There is an economic principle that states that 20 percent of the effort results in 80 percent of the result. This principle is often referred to in business, productivity and management.
I’m going to introduce it to motherhood.
As mothers, we have a lot on our plates, many things we could or should be doing. But only 20% of those things will bring us the 80% of results we’re looking for. In my case, clearing my inbox, washing dishes or tidying my house wasn’t going to deepen my relationship with my children. Yes, these chores were screaming at me to be done, but the urgent things are rarely the important ones.
Instead, I took my 9 year old and we had our inaugural Mommy/Daughter book club. Just the two of us. We talked about the book we’d read. Choices the characters made. Our favorite parts of the book. We laughed, took pictures of ourselves and ate yummy bagels.
Imagine a dartboard. A target in the middle with a couple larger circles around it. My kids are the target. The next circle is all the “things” I do for my kids. Cook, clean, chauffer etc. The largest circle is reading parenting books and learning about being a mom. Hitting any one of those circles will earn me “mommy” points. But focusing on the target will bring me most of my results.
So my motherhood plan is to hit the target as often as possible. To run around my children less and run to them more.
Listen. Look them in the eye. Get on the floor. Read Boxcar Children books.
Speaking of which, I’d better go. Next bookclub meeting is Saturday.Leave a Comment