The following is a guest post from the lovely Stacy of Delighting in the Days.
How to say Hello Mornings with a Night Owl Husband
It’s 9:30pm. I sink into the couch cushions.
Eyes are heavy. Â Breath is deep.
It’s been aÂ long day.
“Want to watch a movie?” My husband asksÂ energetically.
Say what?Â Don’t you know I’m maximizing my mornings?
His reply: “But it’s only 9:30.”
If you’re striving to say hello mornings with a night owl husband, this picture is probably familiar to you. It may be a slightly different set of circumstances, but it all comes down to the fact thatÂ you are ready for bed, and he is not.
So what’s a girl to do?
Here are a few tips to help you maximize your mornings when you’re married to a night owl (we have not perfected this by any means, but we are working on it):
Talk about it
This is obvious, I know, but its’ worth remembering that men are not mind readers. Let him know what you are trying to do and WHY. Once he understands you are not simply trying to get out of movie night, he may be more willing to go with it.
One of my reasons for getting up early is to help me be a better wife and mother. I feel much more in control of myself (and I’m nicer to be around) when I’ve had a few minutes to spend with God and focus on His will for the day ahead. Plus, it’s much more peaceful than waking up to “I’m hungry Mom!”
I’m guessing most husbands want a nice, happy wife too.
Make sure you are getting quality time together
We can’t blame our husbands for a little protesting if we are suddenly cutting outÂ all of our time with them. A home busy with children often leaves us with few precious moments to share.Â Carve out some time to spend togetherÂ on a regular basis. Be it a date night or dinner for two while the kids watch a movie, it’s important to keep each other a priority.
I dream of rising at 5am. In this season of life, it isn’t really feasible for me (baby is still waking at night). It would also require an earlier bedtime, which means less time with hubby. Â Instead I’m shooting for 6am. He is also aiming to go to bed sooner.
Even though I’m getting up later than I’d really like to, and he is going to bed earlier than he would like to, we are finding a happy medium for the both of us.
The goal is to have a peaceful, godly home. That can still be achieved even when I’m not getting up as early as I want to.
Give him aÂ reason to go to bed early
I’m not going to expound on this one.Â I think you know what I mean.
Be an example
It’s important to respect our husbands even when they are night owls (wink). If you have ever been a night owl, you know how hard it is to change (even when you want to).
After observing our faithfulness to rise early and experiencing the benefits that come with that, our husbands may decide to join the Hello Mornings bandwagon! Or not.
It’s important to work on our morning routine within the reality we faceÂ right now. Work with what you’ve got. The only person we can change is ourselves.
Do you have a night owl husband? Have any tips for keeping a peaceful marriage and rising early in the morning?
This week we’re linking up pictures of our Hello Mornings! Be it your quiet time spot, your favorite morning beverage, or most challenging yoga pose, we want to see it!
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