Post-kids, I play a couple times a year. But there was a season in life when I played ALL. THE. TIME
I was possibly a bit obsessive.
My family stayed in a condo every year for the 4th of July. They’d head to the water. I’d hit the courts. By myself.
There wasn’t a backboard to hit against, so I’d pick up a ball and hit a cross court forehand. I’d pick up another ball and hit a forehand down the line. On and on. Different shots. One at a time.
Then I’d go and pick them all up. For three or four hours, I’d do this. All weekend long.
Like I said, obsessive.
Well, sure. I’ll try to go easy on you, nice little lady who is about to eat my dust.
I’m not competitive. Obviously.
A funny thing happened, though. She worked me like a puppet on a string. She stood in one spot, yawning, while she ran me like an errand girl from one sideline to the next.
I was perplexed. Obviously, I was “trying harder” than she was. Why was she destroying me?
She knew the game better. She knew exactly where to hit the ball. She knew what I was thinking. She knew exactly how much energy she needed to expend.
I was a fast. I was serious. I tried hard. She was sweet, wise and beat me without breaking a sweat.
Somehow I’ve always lived in the delusion that if I just TRY HARDER I’ll be a better mom.
“Stop getting frustrated, KAT!”
“Be nicer, KAT!”
“Do crafty things, KAT!”
“Stop getting frustrated, KAT!” (Oh, did I already say that? Well…)
“Be more patient, KAT!”
Just TRY HARDER, Kat!
It’s similar to beating your head against a wall. And just about as productive.
I can “try hard” to be a good mom until I turn blue in the face and I probably won’t change much. But if I pursue wisdom, one book, one chapter, one lesson, one prayer at a time, I will change.
We can reinvent the wheel or we can simply buy one and read it. The most powerful mothering skill is to glean knowledge from those more experienced than us.
Where Have You Found Wisdom?
Today I am asking you to share your favorite resources.
There’s so much information out there about parenting. There are resources geared towards every parenting situation. Many mothers just don’t know where to start. And some mothers just aren’t even aware of the resources available to them.
This is what we need:
1. What books have you read that have been most helpful (include author name, if possible)?
2. What parenting blogs or websites do you frequent?
3. Are there any single blog posts (not necessarily from a parenting blog) that have impacted you?
4. If there is something unique about your parenting situation, what resources have you relied on?
I’ll compile and organize the list to help everyone plan their Mom-iversity course more easily. Also, feel free to share a resource even if someone else has already mentioned it. It will help us identify the most useful resources.
Sound good? As an added bonus, everyone who submits a suggestion will get another entry in the big giveaway. I’ll also give away another copy of Christa Wells CD Frame The Clouds to one of today’s commentors.
Obviously, I really want you all to participate, share your wisdom and your resources. Since there is no real university for moms, we need to rely on one another to learn and grow.
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