Why Every Mom Needs A Bouncer (Or How To Know When To Say No)

I’m not talking about the plastic, jumpy houses kind of bouncer. I’m talking about the big, burly, baldheaded, muscleman kind of bouncer. The type that elite celebrity night clubs hire to make sure only the best of the best make it inside.

They don’t want just anyone in their club, because they know that every person they let in that doesn’t match their ideal patron, lowers the quality and reputation of the club.

Kat, I’m a mom. You lost me when you started talking about clubbing.

Alright, let me bring it back home.

As a mom, your time is limited. You’re busy and you have a lot of responsibilities. But if you’re like most other woman, you love to help, serve, create and lead. And you have a hard time saying no.

Enter your bouncer.

You lost me again, Kat.

Ok. Your bouncer is your Mission Statement. It’s your big burly, baldheaded security guard. When new responsibilities try to enter your life, they MUST make it past the him. Does this new responsibility line up with my Mission Statement? If so, does it also line up with my current yearly goals? If it doesn’t match up with both, it needs to be tossed.

You can simply say, “That sounds like a great opportunity. Thank you for thinking of me, but it doesn’t quite line up with what I’m working on this year.”

If it does match up, talk and pray about it with your spouse before making a final decision.

3 Tips for Evaluating New Opportunities

The summer is nearly over and the school year, with all it’s busy-ness, is fast approaching. Use these three tips to keep you from getting in over your head.

1. New offers, responsibilities, roles must match up with your Mission Statement.
2.Never say yes on the spot. Give it at least a day.
3. When a new role comes in:
– Either an old one needs to go out or
– Sufficient habits need to have been created to make room/time for the new role.

Why We Need To Get In The Habit of Saying No

A mother’s time is precious. Every new responsibility we take on dilutes our effectiveness in our other roles. We must guard our energy, time and family wisely.

Do you have an easy or hard time saying no? Any tips for others?

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This post is part of Works For Me Wednesday.

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