The perfect mom.
The one who bakes healthy, organic, award winning cookies for her children in her spotless home with her perfectly manicured hands that are attached to her fit, flawless body that wears the trendiest clothes (that she bought on sale) which hang in her color coded walk-in closet where she prays for her family for an hour every day.
The one we think we *should* be.
Yes, that one.
Somewhere deep down we know she doesn’t exist, but for unknown reasons we continue to hold her up as the standard against which we feel inadequate, insecure and incomplete.
A Better Perfect Mom
I’ve talked about Mission Statements before. About how they’re really important and useful and blah, blah, blah.
Without a practical application all that talk can just go in one ear and out the other.
Here’s the practical application. When we create our mission statement we are creating OUR version of Perfect Mom. The type of person WE want to be. The type of person we CAN be. The type of mom that our circumstances, strengths and resources ALLOW us to be. So instead of pursuing Perfect Mom, you’re in essence pursuing Perfect You.
Sometimes, as I’m reading blogs I’ll start to compare myself to fun, crafty moms like my friends Leigh and Amanda. I am not crafty. I don’t have a crafty bone in my body. I rarely plan fun crafts to do with the kids. Sometimes I lament about that. I let myself think I’m a bad mom.
But when I look at my Mission Statement, it says:
“To have fun with my children and help them grow up to be people who know, deeply love and wholeheartedly serve God.”
Do you see the word “craft” in there anywhere? Nope. Me either. I just see the word fun. So I focus on the things I AM good at. We make movies, write silly songs, go on adventures, take spontaneous trips, sing loudly in the car and I make them laugh with my goofy accents.
Every now and then, I’ll stretch myself and snag one of Leigh or Amanda’s brilliant ideas and have craft time with my kids. But for the most part, I focus on my strengths and interests rather than trying to morph myself into something I’m not.
The Purpose of Priorities
When we know what our priorities are, we FREE ourselves from comparison, because no one else has the same strengths, goals or circumstances that we do. We can only compete with ourselves. Challenging ourselves to be better each day.
Write down your priorities. What is important to you? In what order? What are your goals?
Tape that list to your fridge, your laptop, your TV. Tape it on your face. Or not.
Whatever it takes to remind you that you aren’t pursuing Perfect Mom, you’re pursuing what God created you to be.
He Could Have If He Wanted To…
If God wanted clones He would have made them. He’s kinda powerful like that. But, since he didn’t make clones, I think we can assume He has specific purposes for each of us. Let’s find out His plans and align our lives to be successful in His eyes.
Freedom From Comparison
Because when it all comes down, the only Perfect One worthy of our pursuit is Jesus.
He desperately wants us to be consumed with Him. Not because He is vain, but because when we are consumed with Him we cannot be consumed with ourselves. When we lose ourselves we lose the Fear, Anxiety, Hopelessness, and Discouragement that we inevitably carry.
When we are consumed with Him, our deepest needs are met. And when our deepest needs are met, we free up 90% of our thoughts and actions.
And we become the moms we’ve always longed to be.
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