Adie (isn’t that the coolest name?) is Jeremy Camp’s wife and makes wonderful music in her own right. I’ve really enjoyed listening to this cd during my morning time. It’s worshipful, familiar and creative. Such a wonderful combination.
Get all the details at the end of the post and find out who won last week’s prize.
Why Moms Need A Sidekick
Batman had Robin. The Lone Ranger had Tonto. Dora has Boots.
Even superheroes need help.
And moms do too.
The Power of Accountability
Moms don’t have yearly reviews or monthly quotas. We don’t have bosses or supervisors. We can have a bad day or week and the only ones who know are our kids. And if we don’t like their reaction, we can just ground them. Or something like that.
Proverbs 27:17 says, “Iron sharpens iron.” It doesn’t say, “Iron sharpens all by itselfâ€¦when it feels like it and only if it’s had enough coffee.
The best athletes in the world have coaches. Has that ever struck you as ironic? They’re “the best.” Why do they need anyone to help them?
We all need external motivation to push us beyond what we “think” our limits are. We get blinded by discomfort, inconvenience or our own sin and lose our focus. We NEED others to push us back on track to cheer “YOU CAN DO IT!” right when we think we can’t.
Here is a great example of how others can push us farther than we could go on our own.
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That “thing” you think is impossibleâ€¦it isn’t. “With God, all things are possible.” (Matt. 19:26)
If you want to be everything you can, you need help. A sidekick. An accountability partner.
The Practicals of Accountability
1. Enlist a friend. Now, you might think that I’m going to tell you to find someone else who wants to, for example, get up early too so that you can keep each other accountable. Nope. That’s not what I’m going to tell you.
That’s a TERRIBLE idea.
Why, you ask? Because you’ll both “show each other mercy” instead of keeping one another accountable.
I encourage you to find someone who has “gone before”. It might be an older woman you know who has already developed the giving habits you are building. Or a friend who is a few steps ahead in her consistency.
Just make sure it’s someone who isn’t afraid to truly keep you accountable.
2. Children are great at accountability. But only if you’re REALLY serious.
You can post a chart of what you want to accomplish on the fridge and have your kids ask you each night if you completed everything.
A friend of mine got really serious and told her kids that they can dump cold water on her if they find her in bed after a certain time.
If your kids are like mine, they’ll be unrelenting about keeping you accountable. Apparently, small children have yet to develop the mercy gene. I love it!
3. Your spouse. Now, let me warn you that you should only ask your spouse to keep you accountable if you all have a really good relationship. Otherwise, it could make things pretty stressful. If you do have a good relationship, though, then your spouse can be excellent at keeping you accountable. Whether you always like it or not.
4. Find a Community Perhaps there’s a small group of women you could gather who would keep each other accountable. Peer accountability works much better if it involved more than just two people, because there’s a bit more pressure and a little less “grace.”
Online community is another good option for moms, especially if you’re new to your town, have a newborn and find it hard to get out, or just want to be able to connect with like minded moms any hour of the day or night.
5. Have a Plan If you do find a partner or a group, be sure to make the most of it and have a plan. Talk about more than just what time you woke up. Go deeper. Here are some possible questions:
- What did you learn during your time with God this week?
- What steps have you taken, small or large, to share the love and greatness of God with someone this week?
- Have you gone to bed and gotten out of bed on time?
- In what way did you parent well this week?
- In what way would you like to improve next week?
- Did you honor your spouse this week?
Now Take Action
We have two choices right now. We can smile and click away while saying,”Good ideas!” or we can act and take 5 minutes to call or email someone who is a possible accountability partner.
Only one of those choices will bring about the changes we desire.
Motivation Monday Giveaway
I love reading about all the action you all take each week. It’s so encouraging and inspiring!
For those of you who are new, here’s how Motivation Monday works:
Anyone who takes some sort of action can enter to win. Your action might be:
- getting up early, reading your Bible
- going on a date with your kids
- creating a mission statement
- creating a meal plan
- Writing a goal
It can be any action that improves who you are as a believer or a mother.
To enter the giveaway just leave a comment and say, “I took action this week!”
You can also:
– Get 2 entries by leaving another comment telling us what action you took.
– Get 3 entries by leaving one more comment and telling us you told your social media friends about the action you took (blog/twitter/facebook etc) .