GIVEAWAY! Motivation Monday: Why You Need A Sidekick And How To Get One

By April 18, 2010General

Today is Motivation Monday! Tell us in the comments if you’ve taken action and get a chance to win today’s giveaway which is…Adie Camp‘s new cd Just You And Me.

Adie (isn’t that the coolest name?) is Jeremy Camp’s wife and makes wonderful music in her own right. I’ve really enjoyed listening to this cd during my morning time. It’s worshipful, familiar and creative. Such a wonderful combination.

Get all the details at the end of the post and find out who won last week’s prize.

Why Moms Need A Sidekick

Batman had Robin. The Lone Ranger had Tonto. Dora has Boots.

Even superheroes need help.

And moms do too.

The Power of Accountability

Moms don’t have yearly reviews or monthly quotas. We don’t have bosses or supervisors. We can have a bad day or week and the only ones who know are our kids. And if we don’t like their reaction, we can just ground them. Or something like that.

Proverbs 27:17 says, “Iron sharpens iron.” It doesn’t say, “Iron sharpens all by itself…when it feels like it and only if it’s had enough coffee.

The best athletes in the world have coaches. Has that ever struck you as ironic? They’re “the best.” Why do they need anyone to help them?

We all need external motivation to push us beyond what we “think” our limits are. We get blinded by discomfort, inconvenience or our own sin and lose our focus. We NEED others to push us back on track to cheer “YOU CAN DO IT!” right when we think we can’t.

Here is a great example of how others can push us farther than we could go on our own.

(RSS readers click here to see this video.)

That “thing” you think is impossible…it isn’t. “With God, all things are possible.” (Matt. 19:26)

If you want to be everything you can, you need help. A sidekick. An accountability partner.

The Practicals of Accountability

1. Enlist a friend. Now, you might think that I’m going to tell you to find someone else who wants to, for example, get up early too so that you can keep each other accountable. Nope. That’s not what I’m going to tell you.

That’s a TERRIBLE idea.

Why, you ask? Because you’ll both “show each other mercy” instead of keeping one another accountable.

I encourage you to find someone who has “gone before”. It might be an older woman you know who has already developed the giving habits you are building. Or a friend who is a few steps ahead in her consistency.

Just make sure it’s someone who isn’t afraid to truly keep you accountable.

2. Children are great at accountability. But only if you’re REALLY serious.
You can post a chart of what you want to accomplish on the fridge and have your kids ask you each night if you completed everything.

A friend of mine got really serious and told her kids that they can dump cold water on her if they find her in bed after a certain time.

If your kids are like mine, they’ll be unrelenting about keeping you accountable. Apparently, small children have yet to develop the mercy gene. I love it!

3. Your spouse. Now, let me warn you that you should only ask your spouse to keep you accountable if you all have a really good relationship. Otherwise, it could make things pretty stressful. If you do have a good relationship, though, then your spouse can be excellent at keeping you accountable. Whether you always like it or not.

4. Find a Community Perhaps there’s a small group of women you could gather who would keep each other accountable. Peer accountability works much better if it involved more than just two people, because there’s a bit more pressure and a little less “grace.”

Online community is another good option for moms, especially if you’re new to your town, have a newborn and find it hard to get out, or just want to be able to connect with like minded moms any hour of the day or night.

5. Have a Plan If you do find a partner or a group, be sure to make the most of it and have a plan. Talk about more than just what time you woke up. Go deeper. Here are some possible questions:

  • What did you learn during your time with God this week?
  • What steps have you taken, small or large, to share the love and greatness of God with someone this week?
  • Have you gone to bed and gotten out of bed on time?
  • In what way did you parent well this week?
  • In what way would you like to improve next week?
  • Did you honor your spouse this week?

Now Take Action

We have two choices right now. We can smile and click away while saying,”Good ideas!” or we can act and take 5 minutes to call or email someone who is a possible accountability partner.

Only one of those choices will bring about the changes we desire.

Motivation Monday Giveaway

I love reading about all the action you all take each week. It’s so encouraging and inspiring!

For those of you who are new, here’s how Motivation Monday works:
Anyone who takes some sort of action can enter to win. Your action might be:

  • getting up early, reading your Bible
  • going on a date with your kids
  • creating a mission statement
  • exercising
  • creating a meal plan
  • Writing a goal

It can be any action that improves who you are as a believer or a mother.

To enter the giveaway just leave a comment and say, “I took action this week!”

You can also:
– Get 2 entries by leaving another comment telling us what action you took.
– Get 3 entries by leaving one more comment and telling us you told your social media friends about the action you took (blog/twitter/facebook etc) .

Last Week’s Winner
According to Random.org, last week’s winner of the Britt Nicole CD was Sam. Congratulations!

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73 Comments

  • Avatar Christine says:

    I am so excited to have found your blog!! I am a mom to an almost two year old and one month old. Having two really is forcing me to manage my time better. This week I wrote a mission statement that has helped me focus my energy- love it! I’m planning to share this with the mom’s group I’m part of . My husband and I are currently living in Hong Kong. Thanks so much for what you are sharing and for inspiring me!

  • I am also thrilled to have found your blog. I have a 6 month old daughter and would like to have three more kids eventually, but I definitely need to learn to be more efficient! I took action this past week by exercising 6 out of 7 days and making a meal plan for the week before I went grocery shopping. My husband has been my accountability partner, particularly with the exercise for a long time now.
    .-= Jessica@Coffee and a Cookie´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday – Sweetness Herself =-.

  • Avatar Mandi says:

    I took action this week!

  • Avatar Mandi says:

    I created a financial goal and action plan to share with my husband and I created a meal plan (that is not too fancy!) and included side items and snacks on my menu plan.

  • Avatar Mary says:

    I’ve been learning the books of the bible via the Bible Books Song on youtube.com with my kids! It’s funny how I know most of them, but get flustered when I go to open it and fidget through my bible tabs until I find what I’m looking for (unless I went the wrong way).
    .-= Mary´s last blog ..Dot com! =-.

  • Avatar Charla Nira says:

    I took action!

  • Avatar Becky says:

    I took action this week!

  • Avatar Becky says:

    My 5 yr. old daughter and I had a wonderful date day Saturday!
    We went shopping at the local children’s resale store for spring dresses for her, went and painted pottery pieces, and had ice cream. It was a special day together!

  • Avatar Becky says:

    I told my friends on FB about my time with my special girl!

    Thanks for the chances to win the CD. Thanks for your blog and all the encouragement!! God bless!

  • Avatar Jamee says:

    Morning- glory!

    I love your wisdom in finding someone who is a wee bit ahead of me on the accountability things…..I totally understand giving mercy…..ooops.

    I do have a group on FB named the 530 Club. I started it to encourage my peeps to be more intentional with their prayer time for their families. I try to post quotes or scripture that are particularly meaningful to me from time to time. There have been several times when folks mention to me how helpful or inspiring the posts are. Completely blows me away that I might be supporting someone else when I feel so weak myself. Also spurs me along to be more consistent with my reading and writing on the site.

    I’m not exactly sure how to find groups on FB, but if you search for the 530 Club and want to join…..I’d love to have you 🙂

    Happy Monday~

  • Avatar melissa p. says:

    i took action this week!

  • Avatar melissa p. says:

    i had my “retreat” and did my weekly planning (menu, school, home) and got up to exercise this morning!

  • Avatar kelli says:

    I took action this week!

  • Avatar kelli says:

    I created calendar appointments on my phone to remind me what things to pray for my boys each day, based on your prayer calendar. Now, when my alarm goes off at 5am, I know what virtues I am keeping in mind throughout the day for my kids!

  • Avatar Hollie says:

    I was so thrilled to find this blog last week. I’m a single mom of two girls (7 and 3) and we were desperately in need of some kind of schedule in our lives. Your eBook has helped me so much! I have been writing out meal plans, writing out my plans for each day, and I’m working on gradually waking up early each morning to have time for morning devotions. Thank you so much for all that you do here!
    .-= Hollie´s last blog ..5?Fri. =-.

  • Avatar Jessica says:

    Hi Kat! I am writing unrelated to the contest, just to let you know I have NOT dropped off the face of the earth but I have fallen prey to severe morning sickness and have been MIA for a few months now… I still get up early, but that’s about all I can manage to do… I keep reading the posts but I will be looking from the sidelines…. Just wanted to give you this heads up ; ) Blessings,

  • Avatar Jessica says:

    I took action this week!

  • Avatar Jessica says:

    I’ve been successfully getting up early for three weeks now (!!!). Today before the house awoke, I took time to plan my day. Nothing crazy-detailed, but enough that I can mark items off when I’ve completed them. And I have somewhere to aim. So minor, and so little, but so very big in my world. And I’m so thankful for the kick in the pants that you have been for me! So thanks. 🙂

  • Avatar Leslie says:

    I took action this week!

  • Avatar Leslie says:

    I got up early and had my ‘daily’ retreat. It’s such a blessing!

  • Avatar Leslie says:

    Told my fb friends about the action I took, and referred them to your sight because it has been such an inspiration to me!

  • Avatar Sara says:

    Taking action this week…sitting at Caribou planning out the last days of freedom before the kids are home for the summer! 🙂

  • Avatar Brooke says:

    Thanks for a great blog! It has been so encouraging to me, as I am trying to incorporate some new things in my life…so that my home can run more smoothly! As a single mom, I tend to get on my self, because things get so crazy and out of whack…and nothing ever seems done! Two things I’ve learned…1) I can’t do it all! 2) With a PLAN, I can get more done and have less stress and strife! And feel some sense of accomplishment!

    I want to get to the place where I have a meal plan, a shopping plan, an organized budget…but I am taking it one step at a time.

    This week, the action that I took, was to make a cleaning plan. (the hard part for me..is going to be..sticking to it!)

    Also…side note…my daughter’s name is Adie! Short for Adiella (pronounced Addy- ella…you’de be surprised the pronuciations that people come up with!) Her name means Jewel from God!

  • Avatar jeana says:

    I took action!
    .-= jeana´s last blog ..Learning Through Teaching :Autism =-.

  • Avatar jeana says:

    I planned my daily, weekly, and even yearly retreat!
    .-= jeana´s last blog ..Learning Through Teaching :Autism =-.

  • Avatar Trachelle says:

    I took action this week!

  • Avatar Trachelle says:

    I went to a coffee shop to take my weekly retreat and woke up early to pray/plan/read scriptures 6 out of 7 days. I am loving these new routines! Especially the weekly retreat, it is making a huge difference in my week. I am also making plans to take a yearly retreat in October. Thank you again for sharing your inspiration.

  • “I took action this week!”

  • My action this week was to make sure that I took time with my boys, buying nice things to make for dinner, helping my husband with bath routines and taking time to just lay and “hang out” in my son’s room as a family (instead of laundry, cleaning, schoolwork, etc.)

  • Avatar Timbrel says:

    This is awesome! I’m really excited to start my morning routine (weakness)! I have twinsies who are four months, so I’m finally to a point where I think I officially can wake up and not be a complete cranky zombie.

    And also, that video was completely awesome. I’ve just recently started running and it’s a real kick in the tail sometimes (most of the time). My goal is to run a 5K by the end of the year! … and my action: running again today! 🙂
    .-= Timbrel´s last blog ..3 Must-Have Ingredients For Life To Be A Tasty Piece Of Cake =-.

  • Avatar Mel B. says:

    I took action this week! I spent my mornings working out and reading my bible and devotional. I felt so ready to take on my day once I did all of that for myself. This week I am spending my morning time reading my book group selection and working out. (I will get back to my devotions after thursday) :). I am allowing myself one sleep in day: Saturday. It is my indulgence after working hard at my mornings and busy days during the week. Thank you Kat for the guidelines to “maximize my mornings”. It is so simple, but sometimes it takes someone else to lay it out for you to realize how doable it is.

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  • Avatar Anna says:

    I took action. I’m a little late to the series, but I talked to my husband about taking a weekly retreat. Together we found a time that would work. I’m going to try Monday evenings while he does the evening routine and puts the kids to bed. I’m going to try to work on a personal mission statement this week.

  • I took action this week! I found an accountability friend, and encouraged my hubby to do the same (and he did too, yay!)

  • Avatar Brooke says:

    I took ACTION this week!

  • Avatar Brooke says:

    I told my FB friends about my action to create a cleaning schedule!

  • Avatar Roslyn says:

    I took action!

  • Avatar Roslyn says:

    I actually got up before 6 A.M! And Exercised! 🙂

  • Avatar Jessica says:

    I took action

  • Avatar Jessica says:

    I took my 3-yr old son for a mommy date and the best part of it was he told me he was the happiest kid in the world. I have also revised my meal planning schedule and have been following it consistently. I am new to your blog and I have really enjoyed it so far, thanks for inspiring me to action!

  • Avatar Jessica says:

    I told my FB friends about my mommy date.

  • Avatar Shawn says:

    “I took action this week!”

  • Avatar Shawn says:

    I am forgiving my husband.

  • Avatar Sam says:

    I took action this week!

  • Avatar Sam says:

    My action was making my meal plan for the next two weeks!

  • Avatar Stacy says:

    I’ve been reading your blog for about a week now and love it! Thanks so much.

    I took action today!

  • Avatar MrsMK says:

    My action since just finding your blog was to read your e-book and then get up early and read my bible this morning. Thanks for the kick in the pants!

  • Avatar Stacy says:

    The action took…

    Today I got up with the baby when she woke up instead of laying in bed with her 🙂 I then sat her in the bumbo seat and read my Bible. I haven’t read much lately…I was only able to get in two and a half chapters before she got fussy, but it is better than nothing. I then carried her around while I prayed!

    She rocked in the swing while I exercised.

    I’d like to do all this before she wakes up. But this is a good first step for me 🙂 Especially considering I have been reading and praying much less than I need to be.

    Thanks for the motivation!

  • Avatar MrsH says:

    I took action!

  • Avatar MrsH says:

    Based on the mission statement I worked on a few weeks ago, I set two goals last week. One of them was to spend Monday evenings sewing, nurturing my own need for creativity. Well, I sat down and got started ironing, cutting fabric, until I realized that my recently-serviced sewing machine didn’t have the pedal/power supply! Big bummer. But I tried, and even got over my phone-phobia and called the store to ask about it. Hopefully it will be found!

  • Avatar Becky Trimble says:

    I took action this week!

  • Avatar Becky Trimble says:

    Woo-hoo! Me and the doggy went for a joggy…..early this morning! : )

  • Avatar AshleyF says:

    I took action this week.

  • Avatar AshleyF says:

    Thank you for starting this blog. I think that this really is inspirational to moms. I think some of us have wanted to be more organized, productive, etc for a long time, we just didn’t know where to start.
    I wrote a mission statement this week and trying to get back on track of waking up early. Had a rough week last week with sickness.
    Again, thank you!

  • Avatar Heidi says:

    I took action this week!

  • Avatar Heidi says:

    I hired a babysitter on Saturday (since my husband works most weekends) and went to Starbucks to read the bible, and write. Something that was completely refreshing. I came back a much more balanced mommy. I also exercised once this week – finally broke out a kickboxing dvd I got for Christmas 2 YEARS ago!!!

  • Avatar Amy says:

    I took action!

  • Avatar Amy says:

    I love your web site! It is good, practical, step-by-step advice… and I need that! I’ve been working on my mission statement… and MOST days I’ve been getting up at 6am! (my goal is 5:30, but I’m taking baby steps) As someone who routinely hates mornings and who has children that get up with the sun, this is a HUGE step. I would be grumpy because every morning I’d wake up to children fighting over breakfast or yelling over SOMETHING… now, I get up to silence! And I can read my bible and just sit and “stare into space” while I contemplate. It is WONDERFUL! Thank you for inspiring me to do it! I am a much better mother and wife because of this one simple action.

  • Avatar Melissa says:

    I took action this week!

  • Avatar Melissa says:

    I’ve been getting up early with hubby and making him breakfast again, for the first time since our baby was born! I’m probably slower to get back into this routine than some, but I’m excited to be getting enough rest at night to get up bright and early!

  • Avatar Karin says:

    I took action this week!

  • Avatar Karin says:

    I got up early (still not as early as my goal, but getting there) and have found that going outside is the quiet place that I need to keep the kids from getting up with me. I set their cereal and juice on the table, next to the remote, and let them get started on their own. Getting there 🙂

  • Avatar Kristi says:

    I took action this week!!!
    .-= Kristi´s last blog ..Getting it together… =-.

  • Avatar Kristi says:

    I made my weekly meal plan and shopping list and master task list for the week and already started crossing things off!!! (since I work nights my week usually starts on tuesday because I sleep mondays, but got up at a decent time and got lots accomplished yesterday!!!).
    .-= Kristi´s last blog ..Getting it together… =-.

  • Avatar Amy says:

    I took action

  • Avatar Amy says:

    I ordered The Procrastinator’s Handbook online that Kat suggested, it arrived, and I have actually started reading it. 🙂

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  • Avatar lisa says:

    I made a meal plan.

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  • Avatar Michelle says:

    I took action this week!

  • Avatar Michelle says:

    I got up and did my morning mile and later this morning did my hellomorning study!

    Getting up and walking was the hardest thing!

  • Avatar Michelle says:

    For the last week or two, I’ve been posting to Twitter and Facebook about my morning health routine (#morningmile). Last week, in an attempt to gain some accountability, I created a 100 by 100 group on FB – we started today with walking/running/swimming 100 miles in 100 days. So to hold myself accountable, I also use the hashtag #100by100 ! The #hellomornings study is a great way to share what you’re doing!

    100 by 100: http://lifeonthehorizn.wordpress.com/2012/05/11/100-by-100/